The marriage of your daughter

Continuing from the previous passage, Paul discusses the question of whether it is good for a virgin to marry. In the ancient world, fathers arranged marriages for their daughters. Therefore, the instruction here is presented in the form of counsel addressed to a father who has a daughter. Paul’s intent may be summarized as follows. (1) Paul values and honors a virgin who has reached marriageable age. (2) A father who gives his marriageable daughter in marriage is not committing sin. He is doing what is good for her. (3) If circumstances permit and it is possible for a father to keep his daughter unmarried, that is also commendable. As we learned previously, everything should be considered from the perspective of an orderly life, the wise use of time and energy, and wholehearted devotion to God.

Those whose spouse has died

Next, Paul gives instruction concerning the question of remarriage for those whose spouse has died and who are now living as single persons. (1) Marriage binds a man and a woman together as one. (2) However, when one spouse dies, the surviving spouse is released from that marriage and is free to marry whomever he or she wishes. Exercising that freedom by remarrying is not sinful. (3) Nevertheless, in Paul’s judgment, it is more blessed to remain unmarried. This conclusion is also based on the perspective of an orderly life, the wise use of time and energy, and wholehearted devotion to God. After giving these instructions, Paul says, “And I think that I also have the Spirit of God.” In other words, he is affirming that these instructions, like the rest of his letters, were written under the inspiration of the Spirit of God. Take note of Paul’s remarkable balance, his practical approach, and his gracious spirit. Are these not the very spiritual qualities needed by those who lead God’s flock? When giving counsel to others, let us pray that we too may be granted this kind of wisdom.